• Myth: Bisexuality Is Only A PhaseFor years the gay community has challenged heterosexuals who publicly state that homosexuality is only a phase. Bisexuals face the same generalization from both the gay and straight communities. Many bisexuals are completely in touch with their emotions and desires for members of both genders and often feel limited by the thought of attraction to only a man or woman. Emotional connections often take precedence when bisexuals pursue a potential partner. Bisexuality is just as much of a natural process as homosexuality and heterosexuality.
• Myth: Bi Men Have To Choose To Be Either Gay or StraightBisexuals are attracted to both men and women on both an emotional and physical level. Some “lean straight” (meaning they prefer a member of the opposite sex, but same-sex partners are always an option) and others “lean gay” (which means they prefer members of the same sex, but would consider a relationship with a member of the opposite sex). Nonetheless, they are not simply gay or straight and definitely do not have to choose.
• Myth: Bisexual Men Are Sexually ConfusedA common misconception in both the gay and heterosexual communities is that bisexuals are sexually confused. This misconception is far from the truth. Bisexuals are attracted to both sexes and are in many cases more clear about their sexuality than most others.
• Myth: Bisexual Men Will Never MarryAlongside the thought that bisexual men and women are sexually confused is the myth that they will never be able to settle down in a monogamous relationship with a partner of either gender. In many cases, bisexuals put a lot of emphasis on emotional connections. That in mind, the opportunity to find a life partner is just as viable as it is in a heterosexual or homosexual relationship.
• Myth: Bi Men Are Sexually PromiscuousBisexuals are no more promiscuous than any others. Promiscuity (or frequent sex with multiple partners) is an individual trait not to be associated with any one group of people. However, liking both males and females increases a bisexual man’s chances of finding a sexual partner or potential relationship (by shear numbers alone).

According to Chandler Burr, the author of A Separate Creation:

The Search for the Biological Origins of Sexual Orientation, “The evidence, although preliminary, strongly indicates a genetic and biological basis for all sexual orientation. We see this in the work of scientists Michael Bailey and Richard Pillard, who have done studies on twins and gay and lesbian siblings. For example, they found that with identical twins, where one twin is gay, the other twin has an approximately 50 percent chance of being gay. In fraternal twins [separate eggs], if one sibling is gay, there is a 16 percent chance the other sibling will be gay.

And in non-genetically related adopted brothers and sisters, where one sibling is gay or lesbian, there is a 9 percent chance that the other sibling will be homosexual, which is approximately the normal statistical incidence in the general population. These results, which indicate that sexual orientation is governed primarily by genetics , have been confirmed dramatically in other laboratories in the United States.”

Burr adds that there are other factors that contribute to sexual orientation, “which may be either biological factors— other than genetics or ‘environmental factors.” Environmental factors, he explains, “is a term that has recently gone through a major metamorphosis in meaning. It once meant large, discrete, identifiable experiences, such as coming in contact with a gay person as a child. We now understand the ‘environment’ to be quite simply any and all sensory stimulation, which all people receive by virtue of being alive and living in society”

Burr concludes: “Sexual orientation’s biological component is effectively determined at birth. And we know conclu­sively that sexual orientation is neither changeable nor a matter of choice.”

I also like what Abigail Van Buren (“Dear Abby”), the internationally respected purveyor of commonsense advice, has to say on this subject: “I’ve always known that there was nothing wrong with gay and lesbian people, that this is a natural way of life for them. Nobody molested them, nobody talked them into anything. They were simply born that way”

Unfortunately, because plenty of gay and lesbian people call themselves bisexual on the way to accepting their homosexual orientation, many people have the misconception that all men and women who say they are bisexual are homosexuals who are afraid to admit the truth about themselves. This is simply a misconception. There are many people who have feelings of sexual attraction for both men and women.